All couples want to avoid being married while still in love with someone else.

However, being married does not automatically confer the ability to control one’s heart.

Yes, you have made some commitments, but you never even imagined that you would discover yourself to be emotionally unfaithful.

It need not imply that you interacted with this third party in any way. It’s sufficient that you can feel and think about them.

There is no question that the situation is complicated and challenging for all parties involved. You are not the first married person to experience this situation, though.

Unhappily married and in love with someone else.
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1. You are irritated by your spouse in every way.

At the beginning of your relationship, do you still recall all the adorable traits that made you fall in love with your husband or wife?

How you smile when you texted them, how you love their quirks and flaws just as much as their positive traits, and how you even enjoy the sound of them snoring?

All of that has changed, though. In fact, it could be said that lately, everything about them irritates you. The way they breathe, talk, and even laugh bothers you. Sincerely, you tend to get irritated by unimportant, minor things.

In fact, the qualities you cherished most about them are now irritating you. All of a sudden, Nothing they do or say is cute or endearing, and you can’t help but snort constantly.

It’s true that you find this person to be revolting. You simply don’t feel at ease around them, not because you hate them or anything like that. Now, just as their presence used to make your entire day happier, you eagerly anticipate seeing their back and their departure. One of the first indications of trouble in paradise is if you can relate to this in any way. This is unquestionably a warning sign.

2. You come up with justifications for staying home.

When you were dating your wife or husband, you couldn’t wait to get married and share a home.

You had grown weary of driving around in your car, spending the night somewhere else and returning to your house in the morning to get ready for work, having to think of new date ideas, and spending time in cafes or restaurants. To spend the rest of your life waking up next to this special person was a fulfillment of a lifelong dream for you. You couldn’t wait to cook, spend your lazy Sundays next to them, have breakfast with them every single morning, and stay together until death does you part. But now everything has changed. In fact, you keep making up reasons to stay home and avoid spending time with your significant other. This need not imply that you are skulking to see someone else. Simply put, you prefer to be alone with your spouse, which is not a sign of a happy marriage. Even your partner has noticed this, in fact. Most of the time, you are absent and hard to find.

Maybe you won’t admit it, but it’s the truth if you look at things objectively.

3. You are interacting with someone else.

However, if you notice that you are spending more and more time with this third party, that could be a sign that you are infatuated with them secretly. When you’re at home, you’re coming up with justifications to avoid your spouse. However, you are also exerting a lot of effort to see this person.If it’s a coworker, you frequently put in extra time at the office. You are doing everything you can to support them while coordinating your shifts. If we’re talking about your neighbor, you find yourself trying to figure out when they’ll leave the house so you can happen to run into them. The same is true for the bartender at your local bar or for someone you’ve only known as your best friend up until now. You can always find time to speak with them. Furthermore, even though you don’t want to admit it to anyone, not even to yourself, you start missing this person after a few days pass without seeing them.

Unhappily married and in love with someone else.
Women crying

4. You open up to them about your marital issues.

Whether we like to admit it or not, there are times when we all confide in our closest friends or relatives about our personal issues. The same is true of your marriage’s problems. Even though a married couple ought to be able to work out their differences and difficult times in private, things like this do occur. Considering that you two are adults, you two are more than capable of coming up with a solution to whatever is upsetting you. However, there are times when you just need to let some burdens go. You want someone to hear you out and a second opinion. In the end, this is not really a big deal. Naturally, provided that you are confiding in those you trust, those who won’t cause you any more trouble. But lately, you’ve been telling this special someone all of your marital secrets. They seem to comprehend you, so you keep asking them for advice.

5. You’ve made changes to who you are.

Our subconscious does everything it can to make us more likable to the person we are madly in love with when we are in that state. As a result, be willing to alter some aspects of who you are in order to appease this third person is one of the indicators that you are married but in love with someone else. The opposite is true—it appears as though you could care less what your partner might think of you. You’re not trying to win them over; you’re redirecting all of your effort to this new person.

6. You lie to your spouse about their existence.

Not only should your spouse be your romantic partner, but also your best friend.

You still have the right to hang out without them, though, so don’t take that the wrong way. You are human after all, so it only makes sense that you would want to interact with others.

It does not imply that you should stop making friends or that you should stop being social. You are still allowed to have friends outside of your marriage. However, it is completely normal for your spouse to be aware of everyone you hang out with when you have nothing to hide.